It’s still crazy how suddenly your life can be flipped upside down and everything changed in an instant. Today I want to talk about triggers, death dates, and how to navigate them. Everyone will navigate them differently, but I want to offer some things that have helped me so that these days are not all bad.
There’s a quote I heard, never waste a trigger. I love this quote. Because we are triggered, we want to avoid things. We want to run away from it, and never look, or see something. Whatever our trigger is. But when you can notice your triggers, these triggers are just things that present to you, that can show you what you can work on if you want to work on it. I believe fully that triggers can be healed. That you can work through them and instead of being a trigger, they only bring up a memory instead.
-Different ways of coming to anniversary days
-Noticing the thoughts you are thinking surrounding the day
-Noticing the triggers and working with them
-What we have done for Aria’s death date
Links to any resources: When my daughter Aria died suddenly 4 years ago, I wondered if my life was over. My heart felt shattered into a million pieces. How was I supposed to go on without such an important person in my life? How can I breathe when I'm literally suffocating and drowning? It was difficult to describe my pain; it was an endless feeling of hopelessness.
I carried sharp, intense grief for years. I felt as if I failed my daughter as her mother, and was terrified it would affect my other children as well. Everything felt so bleak and empty. What was the point and the purpose of life?
It's difficult to describe this pain to someone who doesn't understand the depth and duration of child loss. There is something about this connection among us as grieving mothers, that we can speak without words.
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