Mental Health is not a given- it can be taken away in an instant.
The deeper the depth of pain the we feel, the greater the expanse of joy we can feel.
Pain is a part of life, when we allow it to be and learn how to cope with it, we have so much more room for joy
Healing is possible, it just looks different than I expected
Grief is forever, there is not a race that you run to get rid of your grief.
My life is not over.
Hey friends! Today I’m talking with Shelby Forthsyia, a fellow human doing grief work, and spreading support and awareness about grief. It was so fun to chat with someone who is also deep in learning about how you can support yourself and others in grief. Through the experience of losing her mother, Shelby has learned that she needed to give herself Permission to Grieve. That by dissociating, or pretending everything is okay was not helping her live her fullest life. I’m so excited for you to hear all of Shelby’s knowledge about grief and how we can begin to give ourselves permission to grieve.
-Who is Shelby, and how did you come to know grief?
-Your story of the first time giving yourself permission to grieve is powerful. Can you share that story?
-How does one go about giving themselves permission to grieve?
-I want to read a passage from your book about feeling your feelings(if that is okay?)
-There is so much fear in feeling our feelings. I talk often about allowing our feelings in and how they soften when we let them in and allow ourselves to move with our emotions in whatever way feels right for us.
-Does working with grief daily ever get heavy?
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Grief is hard
Grief needs to be fought
Grief is evil and horrible
Common things people say or think with grief.
Need to stay strong, keep busy, keep moving, don’t think
I get it.
-it feels painful
-it feels foreign
-it feels like if you allow yourself to feel you will go down the hole
-it feels like life shouldn’t hurt so bad
Need to be strong:
What does this mean? What could it mean?
Keeping busy:
What’s the purpose behind it?
Don’t think:
Why? Because you will get emotional?
This can be helpful for a time, but it’s not a long term coping mechanism with grief
So, if grief is the bad person in the room that needs to be fought does everyone believe that’s true? What do you think the people who have learned how to live with grief believe? I would say I’ve learned to carry my grief, and integrate it into my life, and what I have not done is fought my grief. I have sat with my grief and allowed it to be.
When we pay attention to our grief, our thoughts, and slow down, that’s when we can actually be aware of what’s going on. I believe this is the only way we can begin to mesh our lives with grief.
There is a limbo period. Where you don’t really know which way is up or down. Where these moments feel mixed up and heavy.
Honor where you are at. Can you have compassion for yourself in your grief right now
-What 3 emotions do I feel?
-Story of in Florida
-Future
-What if your story isn’t over?
-Who do you want to be?
-How can you mesh grief in your life?
-How can you honor your child and remember them, while still fully living this life you have been given?
-How does someone know they are experiencing menopause?
-What are the general age ranges?
-What are the emotions one might go through because menopause signifies another chapter of your life closing, and aging?
-How do you navigate these emotions, and embracing this?
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Hey, today I'm super excited because I got to chat all about trauma, therapy, and how we are stuck and not broken with Justin Sincero. Justin is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who calls himself a trauma nerd. It was such a fun conversation, and I hope this can help you seek the help you might need and gives you hope that trauma is not the end of your story. As Justin says, there is so much more information on the internet, and so much help other than just therapy. Therapy is amazing and super helpful, but it's not the only path. Let's listen in to this amazing conversation with Justin.
-Who is Justin, and how did you come to be a Family Therapist?
-Many people want to go to therapy, or they think they could benefit from therapy, but they are overwhelmed with trying to find a therapist. How can someone take steps to find a therapist, when they are exhausted and don’t have much energy to spend trying to find someone?
-Bad Therapist Experiences
-Trauma Nerd and Polyvagal Theory in a nutshell
-You call yourself a trauma nerd, which I love because it’s super fascinating to me as well.
-#Stucknotbroken
-Is there hope for someone who has experienced trauma? (I ask this because so many people believe they are broken and that they have stuck in the trauma the rest of their lives)
