Phil actually decided to face the pain and feel his emotions. He sat and grieved, that’s when he started to feel better. The grief process is healing. He started looking at Perry's pictures again and started going to the places that reminded Phil of Perry. It’s when he took a more offensive approach that he started to begin his healing.

How can you tell the difference between anxiety and intuition? How can you decipher what is a real threat that you need to do something versus anxiety that’s making you think you need to do something about it?

So, let’s start with this question. Would it have been better if your child or baby lived to be 100? We often think that longer is better. But here’s the thing, how do we know 1 year isn’t better than 98 years? How are we supposed to know what’s a better amount of time?

I want a place where a mom who wants to move from surviving to living and then thriving can come and begin to take those steps.

It's not a choice. Do lean in, and ask a few questions. Employers have to ask what their employee needs. It doesn't have to be big. Sometimes it's just acknowledging the loss and giving some space for the employee to navigate work a little differently.

While friends and family can be good listeners and sometimes good helpers, a good coach or therapist should be assisting you with moving forward, guiding you through processing emotions, giving you tools to cope, and assisting you in learning how to live after your child dies.

You're all here because you felt a lot of pain. You have had a lot of pain and grief, and it can seem like the pain will never end. There's no hope. I know, I felt that in the beginning. You can't always be in grief. It's exhausting. You need a break sometimes. Give yourself a break when it comes.

My friend. This is not the end of your story. If you find yourself in a pity party, which I find myself in from time to time, let yourself sit in it for a bit, but then drag yourself out. Sitting in a pity party will get you nowhere. Looking at others and thinking it’s easier for them than it is for you will get you nowhere. It won’t. Because it’s not easier for them, they have their own trials and you have yours. You only know what yours are, and you can only live your own life.