Episode Pointers:
When you are resisting an emotion, You might use something to try to distract yourself from feeling the pain inside of you.
Every time you use something to try to get out the emotion and not to feel it, is not processing but it is resisting.
When you are not processing the emotion it’s almost like you are fighting it. There is a resistance and a struggle. You are thinking of not wanting to feel this pain and wanting to get out as fast as you can.
Emotions will have their say, and it gets so much easier when I just allow myself to be with it, instead of trying to rush it.
It can feel daunting and scary. But let me tell you, processing your emotions is a lot easier and better than resisting. Because when you resist it, you are ok for a moment but it comes back again and again. When you process it instead of being a constant cloud over your life, it will be a wave that comes and goes.
What does processing emotion mean?
Feeling the emotion in your body and naming it
Noticing the physical sensations that the emotion brings to your body
Allowing the emotion in without any resistance or hurry to get rid of it
Imagining that it’s an energy that flows through your body
Noticing the thoughts that are creating this emotion for you
Being present with where the emotion shows up in your body and what color it is
Being able to know this emotion so well you can describe it to someone else
Using tools to soften, shrink, and change the sensations of the emotion to make it lighter
Our emotions drive our life. so when you are more in the driver seat of your emotions than they are of you, it’s a beautiful thing.
Emotions are not as scary as they seem, and you totally have the capacity to sit with them and feel them.
If you want more tools to help you, I have a workshop called Stop Talking Start Feeling, it’s a workshop that dives into emotions, what they are, and how you can begin to feel and process them and get them out of your body instead of stuffing them down. It also goes specifically into processing and releasing the emotions of guilt and sadness. You can get access to this workshop and all the extra things I have in there for only $27. Go to www.stoptalkingstartfeeling.com to check it out.
If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community
